Ally McBeal Revisited
I can’t find it now, but I believe it was a Salon.com writer who noted Ally McBeal’s true storyline laid in her path of self-discovery and not in the ebb and flow of her love life. Her embracing of single parenthood, for example, demonstrated she did not need a partner but that she had achieved enough self-sufficiency to sustain a family by herself.
I’ve found single life to be harder to maintain than a partnered one. I’m responsible for car and home maintenance, working, saving, driving — the onus is all on me. While it’s good to have someone to share those duties with, what if… he’s a flake? Or carries a debt load? Or is completely self-absorbed? Or worse, physically or emotionally abusive or distant?
It’s been difficult for me to find a stable relationship that engenders such trust — like Ally, it’s easier for me to pursue a path of self-sufficiency rather than chance it with the fallible nature of marriage.