Mind-dating (Part Deux)
As I noted in a prior post, I am glad to have dated certain people at a particular period in my life.
Just as I had never anticipated dating a younger guy, I never thought I would date someone substantially older as well.
I was drawn to B.’s handsome decency and emotional turmoil — he had just recently divorced and was trying to sort out his life by performing at the local poetry slam. It seemed safe to be with him as he had already passed through the settling stages of establishing a family and career, elements that I and my peers were still struggling to secure.
But I felt uneasy with the arrangement: what would his kids think if they met me? What about his ex-wife?
We attended a party hosted by Craig Arnold, who was then a Hodder Fellow at Princeton, celebrating National Poetry Month. There, I felt tension within not only Craig’s relationship with his wife (whom he later divorced) but with another academic guest’s marriage as well. Why did it seem that divorce was so prevalent within academia?